Amazon.com description: Product Description: Everyday we are bombarded with music lyrics, tv shows, clothing, fragrances, and advertisements—all enticing and encouraging us to increase our sex appeal, and to fuel our sex drive! But is it really sex we're after? What about love? Tenderness? Commitment? If It's Love You Want, Why Settle for (Just) Sex is a practical guide to getting what you want out of a relationship. In this testimony to self-respect and discipline, age and sexual history are not important factors, and author Laurie Langford explains why many woman will want to consider postponing the sexual side of a relationship until a solid foundation of love—and commitment—is well established.

Abstinence isn't easy. That's why Langford focuses on practical tools for resistance. Arguing that having sex too soon clouds judgement and interferes with a relationship's development, Langford makes a case not onlyu for why to wait but how to wait. Speaking frankly and honestly about what happens between men and women, she explores how to find a man who is interested in a relationship and how to establish genuine love and commitment before having sex. Langford draws on real stories from women, as well as her own experiences, to show how to:

• Avoid the ten most common mistakes women make
• Take practical steps to build your self-esteem
• Recognize when it's too soon to have sex
• Keep him interested without having sex
• Start over if you already went too far


With the risk of sexually transmitted diseases, the perennial risk of unwanted pregnancies, and the 90's trend of commitment-phobia, abstinence isn't just for teenagers and the religious, it's for anyone who wants more out of a relationship. In If It's Love You Want, Why Settle for (Just) Sex? Langford pioneers a new approach to relationships, championing abstinence and waiting until the time is right.

About the Author

Laurie Langford teaches seminars for women on love, sex, and relationships.