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Tables of Contents for When What You'Ve Got Is Not What You Want
Chapter/Section Title
Page #
Page Count
List of Illustrations
ix
Preface
xi
Exploring changes
1
21
Change is constant
1
2
Exploring anxiety
3
2
Exploring fear
5
7
Dealing with guilt
12
3
Dealing with shame
15
1
Going beyond limitations
16
2
Change is about learning
18
2
The perspective of time
20
1
Summary
21
1
Dealing with change
22
16
Responding to change
23
5
Discover how you react to change
28
2
Managing imposed change
30
4
Choosing to change
34
2
Why change is easier when you know what you want
36
1
Summary
37
1
Understanding values
38
14
Knowing what is right for you
38
2
Why values can light the way
40
1
Whose values are they?
41
1
Identifying behaviours that fulfil values
42
1
Discover your values
43
7
Values summary
50
1
Summary
50
2
Living your life through your values
52
15
The benefits of hindsight
52
5
Create your ideal life
57
2
When something blocks the future
59
2
Are your values compatible with who you are?
61
4
Keep in touch with your vision
65
1
Summary
65
2
Recognising how you create your life
67
24
Regardless of circumstances
67
3
How we think it `is'
70
2
The process for creating a predictable world
72
1
Your unconscious organises your world
73
2
The advantage of positive programming
75
4
Our version is not the only version
79
1
Differentiating our conditioning
80
8
Choosing our own beliefs
88
1
What you focus on is what you get
88
2
Summary
90
1
Your access to a great life
91
17
Discovering states
91
1
The power of resourceful states
91
2
Using imagination and memory to change state
93
1
Taking charge of our experience
94
3
Experiment with visual sub-modalities
97
4
Experiment with auditory sub-modalities
101
4
Using your physiology to change state
105
1
Choosing your state
105
1
Summary
106
2
Becoming the best you can be
108
22
Add music and colour to the past
108
1
Instant resources
109
4
Anchoring is a powerful process
113
1
Success states
113
3
Learning from others
116
3
Recognising your own resources
119
8
Diminish your limitations
127
1
This too will pass
127
1
Summary
128
2
Using communication as a tool for change
130
25
Relationships are negotiated
130
2
Understanding other points of view
132
4
Considering outcomes and consequences
136
1
Expressing yourself
136
4
Listening to really understand
140
1
Creating rapport
141
4
Speaking their language
145
1
Recognise visually preferred people
145
4
Recognise auditory preferred people
149
2
Recognise kinaesthetic preferred people
151
2
Summary
153
2
Going for it
155
14
Creating your action plan
155
1
The eight steps to success
156
1
Select a goal
156
1
Break it down into manageable steps and stages
156
1
Know when you have achieved your goal
157
2
Define the context
159
1
Recognise if it is in your power to obtain
160
1
Is it healthy and wholesome for me?
161
1
Acknowledge the pay-off of the present
162
2
Identify the resources you need to make it happen
164
3
Summary
167
2
Useful addresses
169
2
Recommended reading
171
2
Index
173