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Tables of Contents for The Co-Parenting Survival Guide
Chapter/Section Title
Page #
Page Count
Foreword
ix
Acknowledgments
xiii
Introduction
1
6
Part I Conflict and Parenting: A Difficult Combination
Are You Addicted to Conflict?
7
18
The Dying Marriage
The Legal System
The Divorce
After the Divorce
Conflict Addiction
Conflict and Your Children
25
14
Your Children: The Last Connection
Levels of Conflict
Types of Conflict
Children: The Victims of Conflict
Choosing the Children Over the Conflict
39
8
Looking Back
Who Loves Your Children?
Who Are Your Children With?
Who Is Your ``Ex,'' Anyway?
How Much Information?
Protecting Your Children from Pain
Conflict Resolution
47
16
Do You Love to Fight?
High-Conflict Communication
Behaviors That Prohibit Cooperative Communication
Promoting Cooperative Communication
Resolving the Conflict
Building a Co-Parenting Relationship
63
20
What Is a Good Co-Parent?
The Business of Co-Parenting
The Tarenting Phone Call
The Roles of Attorneys and the Courts
A Dozen Golden Parent Agreement Rules
Part II Co-Parenting Guidelines
Making Parenting Plans Work
83
22
What Is a Parenting Plan?
Why Is It So Difficult?
Special Problems of High-Conflict Parents
Solving the Problems
Elements of Successful Parenting Plans
Transitions
105
16
The Trouble with Transitions
Transitions and Communication
Guidelines for High-Conflict Parents
Talking to the Children about Transitions
Talking to the Other Parent during Transitions
Changing Plans at the Last Minute
Transitioning as Co-Parents
Discipline
121
14
Disciplinary Differences
Agreeing on Basic Values
Separate Houses, Separate Discipline
The Importance of Consistency
Shooting First and Asking Questions Later
Making a Choice about Collaboration
Guidelines for Discussing Discipline
It's Tough but Worth It
Activities and Special Events
135
16
Co-Parenting at Special Events
Expectations of High-Conflict Parents
Events and Activities---A Lifelong List
Structuring Events and Activities
Guidelines for Parents
More Case Examples
Extended Family
Through the Eyes of the Children
New Relationships, Old Issues
151
14
Moving On
The Children's Fantasies
Dating: A Brave New World
Conducting Your New Relationship
Reacting to Your Ex's New Relationship
Children's Reactions to New Relationships
When New Relationships Are Old Issues
Remarriage
New Relationships and a New Future
Parent Alientation
165
14
What Is Parent Alienation?
Remedies for Parent Alienation Syndrome
Guidelines for Preventing Parent Alienation Syndrome
Seeking Help
Healthy Parents, Healthy Children
179
6
When the Battle Is Over: ``You mean I'm really divorced?''
Special Decisions Down the Road
Finding a Parent Counselor and Other Resources
There Is Hope
Congratulations! Your Children Have Their Parents Back
Resources
185
2
Divorce Parenting Web Sites
Suggested Readings
187
2
References
189