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Tables of Contents for Creating a Healthier Church
Chapter/Section Title
Page #
Page Count
Foreword
8
2
Howard W. Stone
Acknowledgments
10
1
Introduction: When Bad Things Happen in Good Churches
11
13
A Sunday Morning in Two Churches
11
8
What This Book Is About
19
1
Who This Book Is For
20
2
The Theoretical Basis of the Book
22
2
The Congregation: More Than Meets the Eye
24
17
A New Way to Think about Human Beings and Relationships
24
2
No One Is an Island
26
3
Systems within Systems
29
2
In the Emotional System, Relationships Are Not What They Seem
31
5
Imagination and Fact: Learning to Observe the Emotional System
36
5
What Unbalances the System?
41
13
What Is Anxiety?
41
3
How Anxiety Develops in Humans
44
4
Anxiety and the Self
48
1
Anxiety and Relationships
49
1
Clam Leadership in the Midst of Anxiety
50
4
Being One among Many
54
12
Unity and Differences in the Church
54
2
The Life Forces for Togetherness and Individuality
56
5
The Life Forces and the Bible
61
2
The Life Forces in the Church
63
3
Closeness, Distance, and the Congregation
66
14
The Close/Distant Dynamic
66
1
Abandonment and Engulfment
67
2
Pursuers and Distancers
69
3
Closeness/Distance and the Bible
72
2
Closeness/Distance and Church Leadership
74
6
Foolishness and Wisdom in Church Leadership
80
11
The Basic Ingredients of Foolishness and Wisdom: Fusion and Differentiation
80
1
Fusion and Foolishness
81
4
Differentiation and Wisdom
85
2
Differentiation and the Congregation
87
4
Reactivity Is More than Reacting
91
10
Anxiety and the Reactive Process in the Congregation
91
2
Patterns of Reactivity
93
8
The Four Functional Styles of Congregational Life
101
13
Bringing It All Together
101
1
Enmeshed
102
3
Isolated
105
2
Connected
107
2
Alone
109
2
A Third Dimension
111
3
Triangles in the Congregation
114
17
What Is a Triangle?
114
6
Interlocking Triangles
120
1
How to Handle Triangles by Repositioning
121
7
Triangles and Leadership in the Church
128
3
Signs of Serious Problems in a Church
131
13
Symptoms of a Church in Difficulty
131
2
Over- and Underfunctioning
133
4
Projection to a Third Party
137
3
Impairment within Key Leaders
140
4
Birth Order and Leadership Style
144
14
Birth Order Theory
144
2
Oldest Children
146
3
Youngest Children
149
3
Middle Children
152
1
The Only Child
153
2
Twins
155
1
The Bible and Sibling Issues in the Church
155
3
Assessing Your Congregation's Emotional System
158
14
Introduction to Assessment
158
1
When Assessment Is Needed and How It Helps
159
2
Goals and Procedures for Assessment
161
5
The Assessment Questions
166
6
Becoming a Better Leader
172
The Less Anxious Presence
173
Self-Differentiation
176
Preparing for the Reaction
180
Conclusion
182