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Chapter/Section Title
Page #
Page Count
Preface
13
5
I FUNDAMENTALS
18
34
The Relating Process
18
11
The Evolving Relationship
19
1
Individuality and Arrhythmia
20
2
Origins of Individual Relating Patterns
22
4
The Question of Transference
26
3
Character Types
29
10
People Who Move Toward People
29
3
Shirley, Frank, and Wally
30
2
People Who Move Against People
32
4
Jack, Jill, and Hazel
33
3
People Who Move Away from People
36
3
Amanda and Raymond
36
3
Models of Relationships
39
13
Cooperative Relating
40
3
Annie and Al
41
2
Creative Relating
43
1
Adversary Relating
43
3
John and Liz
45
1
Antagonistic Relating
46
6
Jim and His Bosses
47
5
II NEUROTIC LOCKS
52
48
Neurotic Locks
52
29
Self-effacing/Expansive
55
4
Molly and Paul
57
2
Self-effacing/Self-effacing
59
2
Detached/Detached
61
3
Laura and Jeremy
63
1
Expansive Narcissist/Expansive Narcissist
64
4
Bill and Joe
67
1
Detached/Expansive
68
8
Fanny, Benny, and Pam
71
5
Self-effacing/Detached
76
5
Mel and Linda
78
3
Sadomasochism
81
10
Mom
84
3
Mary, Arthur, Jimmie, Peter, and Pops
87
4
Invidious Friendships
91
4
Locks and Keys
95
5
III THE SUBSTANCE OF RELATING
100
34
Depth
100
5
Lionel and Lisa
102
3
Kindness
105
4
Degrees of Reactivity
109
6
Pygmalion or Frankenstein? A Case of Switched Trends
111
4
Degrees of Trust, Openness, Intimacy, and Tenderness
115
8
Commonality of Crucial Priorities
123
11
Laurence and Sylvia
129
1
Marge and Cindy
130
4
IV SOCIETY AND CULTURE
134
58
Cultural Impact
134
3
Anger
137
10
Perry and Sally
141
2
Lilly and Abe
143
4
Idealizations and Distortions About Love and Sex
147
16
Love as a Solution, or "Love Conquers All"
150
4
Jenny and Bob
152
2
Sexual Misinformation
154
2
Gender Identification Confusion
156
5
Phil and Maggie
158
3
The "Ever After" Illusion
161
2
Stimulation Addiction
163
4
Misha and Mindy
165
2
Youth Orientation, Superficiality, and Affectation
167
4
Me First
171
2
Popularity and Celebrity: The Compulsive Need to Be Liked
173
4
Justice, Guilt, Reward, Punishment, Responsibility
177
4
Neurotic Pride
181
6
The Bassets--"The Proud Outsiders"
185
2
Competition and Success
187
5
V THE CURRENCY OF RELATING
192
24
How Relationships Reveal Themselves
192
1
Money
193
8
Brown vs. Brown
195
1
Harry, Dorothy, and Sam
196
5
Sex
201
6
Diana's Dilemma
204
3
Leadership
207
4
Time and Activity
211
5
VI AFFECTIVE RELATING
216
24
Constructive and Destructive or Maladaptive Relationships
216
19
Feelings and Pretense
218
4
Wisdom and Maturity
222
2
Orientation to Struggle and Deprivation
224
3
The Approaches to Differences and Fights
227
3
Passion
230
2
Functions of Apology and Gratitude
232
3
Conclusion
235
5
VII EPILOGUE: A SUGGESTED THERAPEUTIC GAME
240
Basis of the Game
240
3
Procedure
243
2
What Does the Game Do?
245
2
What If Nothing Comes Up?
247
2
Can Everyone Play?
249
2
The Game as a Prognostic Instrument
251
2
When Is the Game Over?
253