Amazon.com description: Product Description: While marriage is complicated, Harriet Lerner shows us that the how-tos of a good marriage need not be. Following a unique format perfect for today’s world, Lerner’s more than one hundred rules cover the hot spots in long-term relationships. She reminds us of our own common sense, while challenging us to be bold in bringing about positive change. Lerner gives new solutions to age-old problems ("He won’t talk"/"She doesn’t want sex") as well as modern ones (your partner’s relationship to technology). Other topics include: calming things down and warming them up; talking straight and fighting fair; meeting the challenges of children, stepchildren, and difficult in-laws; overcoming defensiveness (the archenemy of listening and problem solving); knowing how and when to draw the line; and what to do when things fall apart (addictions, affairs, and "impossible" partners). Marriage Rules is an innovative rescue manual, rich with to-the-point advice and illuminating stories told in Lerner’s signature style. It offers a quick, joyful read and a map for success.