Tables of Contents for Adoption Wisdom

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The Adoption Triad

Adoption Beliefs

Adoption Triad Members

Terms for Triad Members

Beyond the Triad

Pain

Understanding the Pain

The History of Adoption

Changes Over Time

Solution to Problems

Problems Arose

Formation of Support Groups

Sealed Records

Open versus Closed Adoption

Basic Truths of Adoption

Lifelong Impact

Creating Families/Separating Families

Second Choice for All

Babies are Aware

Nature versus Nurture

Loss for All Triad Members

Loss and Grief in Adoption

Loss and Grief

Kubler-Ross Stages of Grief

Denial

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Acceptance

Grieving in Adoption

The Realities of Adoption

The Structure of Adoption

Adoption as a Positive Event

Lack of Rituals

The Dynamics of Three

Confusion

Mixed Feelings

Wondering

Constant Reminders of Adoption

Secret of Adoption

Focus on Sex

Needing to Blame

Shifting Birth Order

Dualities of Adoption

To Love/To Let Go

Chosen/Rejected

Truth/Lies

Reality/Fantasy

Adoptees

Connecting

Trust

Separation of Child and Mother

Adapting to a New Environment

Being Told

Kids Can Be Cruel

Finding Out Later in Life

Feeling Unwanted

Abandonment and Rejection

Outer Space

Relationships

Being Alone

True Self/False Self

Identity Issues

Repeating the Pattern

Relationship with Adoptive Parents

Relationship with Non-Adopted Siblings

Fears

Daze/Numbing

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Difficult Beginnings

Adoptee as Survivor

Denial

Triggers

Birth Parents

Birth Mothers

Birth Fathers

Birth Mother/Birth Father Relationship

Forgiveness

Shame

Guilt

Relief

Anger

Sadness

Depression

Relationships

Sexuality

Scars

Role Confusion - Then and Now

Pregnancy = Crisis

Loss

Pregnancy as a Result of Rape

Treatment of Birth Mothers

Relinquishment

Saying Goodbye

Post-Relinquishment Experience

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Support Then and Now

Future Children

Triggers

Adoptive Parents

Infertility

Decision to Adopt

Adoption Is a Permanent Decision

Honesty versus Secrecy

Fears

Whose Child?

Bonding versus Attachment

Loving Your Child

Role as Parent

Telling your Child

Birth Mothers and Birth Fathers

Acknowledging Birth Parents

Talking about Adoption Issues

Integrating Infertility and Adoption

Biological versus Adoptive Parenting

Handling Questions about Birth Parents

Adoptive Parent Perspective

Fears about Birth parents

Expectations of Adoptive Parents

Acknowledgment of Differences

Triggers

Search and Reunion

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Who Searches

Curiosity

Filling in the Blanks

Medical Information

Fears

Synchronicity

Feeling the Connection

Internal Searching

External Searching

Deciding to Search

Obsessiveness of Searching

Adoptive Parents and the Search

Wanting to Find the Truth

The Right to Know

Treatment of Those in Search

Where to Start

Reunion Registries

Search and Support Groups

Continuing to Search

Internal Timing

Knowing versus Not Knowing

The Power of Searching

Waiting to Be Found

Not Wanting to Be Found

Initial Rejection > Agreement to Meet

Intrusion

Intuition

Empowerment

Death at the End of a Search

Is It Worth It?

Reunion Relationships

137

Continuation of a Previous Relationships

Impact of Initial Contact

The Joy of Connecting

Honeymoon Period

Expectations

Fantasy Meets Reality

Regression

Adjusting

Searching versus Being Found

Going Away Again

Walking on Eggshells

Communication Skills

Checking In

Navigating the Relationship

Post-Reunion Feelings

Impact on the Adoptive Family

Reunion Realities

Beyond the Triad

Closing the Reunion Relationship

Before Choosing Adoption

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Adoption as an Option

Research the Possibilities

Becoming a Birth Parent

Becoming an Adoptive Parent

What to Expect

Choosing Adoption

Choosing Adoptive Parents

Choosing Birth Parents

Pre-Adoption Communication

Post-Adoption Communication

Transitional Nature of Feelings

Why Do You Want to Adopt?

Who Do You Want to Adopt?

International Adoptions

Transracial Adoptions

Adoption and Religion

Adoption Awareness

165

Acknowledgment of Adoption Issues

Validation of Feelings

Support and Connection

Types of Healing

Respect for Other Triad Members

Growth

Seeking Help

Choosing a Therapist

Therapy for Your Adopted Child

The Future of Adoption

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Understanding Adoption Issues

Changes in Adoption Practice

Adoption as a Business

The Adoption Reform Movement

Open Records

Surrogacy

Donor Insemination/Egg Donation

Impact of Infertility Treatments

Ethical and Moral Responsibilities

An Ideal Adoption

183

Ideal Adoption

Adults Acting Like Adults

Child as Witness

No Money Exchanged

Honesty

Keeping Kinship Ties

Truly for the Child

Resources

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