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Tables of Contents for Your Competent Child
Chapter/Section Title
Page #
Page Count
Acknowledgments
ix
Introduction
3
8
Family Values
11
25
The Family As a Power Structure
14
2
Definitions
16
9
Methods of Upbringing
16
1
The Age of Defiance
17
1
Puberty
18
1
Teenage Rebellion
18
1
Setting Limits
19
1
Unity
20
1
Firmness
21
1
Consequences
22
1
Fairness
23
2
The Democratic Interlude
25
8
The Process of Family Interaction
26
3
Conflict
29
1
Equality
29
2
Respect and Acceptance
31
1
Demands
32
1
A Community of Equal Dignity
33
3
Children Cooperate!
36
48
The Basic Conflict
36
2
Cooperation
38
10
Integrity
48
18
The Conflict Between Integrity and Cooperation
66
18
Psychosomatic Symptoms
74
3
Destructive and Self-Destructive Behavior
77
7
Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence
84
39
Definitions
85
4
``Watch Me, Mom!'': Recognizing Children's Need to Be Seen
89
7
Acknowledgment and Assessment
96
9
Giving Children a Sense of Value
100
5
``Invisible'' Children
105
8
Why Children Become ``Invisible''
108
3
From Invisible to Visible
111
2
Violence Is Violence
113
8
Adults' Self-Esteem
121
2
Responsibility, Being Responsible, and Power
123
37
Definitions
124
4
The First Step Is the Hardest
128
2
Parental Responsibility and Power
130
6
Children's Personal Responsibility
136
7
A Personal Language
143
2
Responsible, But Not Alone
145
7
Responsibility Versus Service
152
8
Children's Social Responsibility
160
40
Practical Responsibility
164
4
Over-responsible Children
168
13
Alone with Responsibility
177
4
Parental Power
181
19
Interaction
184
5
The Responsible Use of Power
189
11
Limits
200
22
Discarding Roles
202
4
Setting Limits
206
3
When Setting Limits Goes Awary
209
5
Social Limits
214
8
Social Limits and Older Children
219
3
Families with Teenagers
222
22
It's Too Late for ``Bringing Up'' Children
224
5
Parents and Their Sense of Loss
229
5
Parent's Relationship with One Another
234
1
Who Decides?
234
7
When Success Is Almost Achieved
241
3
Parents
244
Difference
245
Shared Leadership
252
Partnership and Parentship
254
Reciprocity Is Equal Respect
257