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Tables of Contents for Our Looks, Our Lives
Chapter/Section Title
Page #
Page Count
Acknowledgments
xiii
I. THE GAZE
My Mother's Eyes
1
12
Imagining the Beautiful Baby
13
14
Pretty Babies Get Picked Up First
27
6
The Mutual Gaze and the Crying Storm
33
30
The Beauty of Separation: A Second Birth Giving Up the Idealization of Mother/Women
63
13
Men in the Nursery
76
21
II. ENVY
The Dark Side of Beauty
97
23
``Bring Me Her Heart!''
120
8
Sibling Rivalry: ``What Is Beautiful Is Good''
128
20
Learning to Be Clean (and Beautiful)
148
6
Poor Vagina, a Rose by Any Other Name
154
17
III. THE YEARS OF INVENTION
Freedom, Ah, the Feel of It, the Look of It!
171
14
Seeing Ourselves on the Silver Screen
185
4
Three Little Girls Can't Play Together
189
17
The Search for an Ego Ideal
206
7
From Nancy Drew to Thelma and Louise
213
7
The Power of the Negative Role Model
220
4
The Tree House Versus the Sleep-Over
224
5
Girls in Each Other's Arms
229
11
IV. THE DANCE OF ADOLESCENCE: GIRLS
Pretty Babies Get Picked Up First, Again
240
13
Puberty: ``A Farewell to Childhood''
253
12
Temple or Sewer? Today I Am a Woman, or Is It a Curse?
265
17
In Praise of Masturbation
282
16
Anger: ``Not a Pretty Face'': Swallow It The Ugly Denial of Mother-Daughter Competition
298
31
The Group---The No-Compete Clause Looking for My Father's Eyes
329
18
V. THE DANCE OF ADOLESCENCE: BOYS
The Look of Boys: Beloved Enemy
347
10
``Be a Man!''
357
10
How Girls Project on to Boys the Ugliness of Sex
367
14
A Farewell to Penis Envy
381
5
The Look of Anger
386
10
``I Am the Father That Your Boyhood Lacked''
396
9
VI. FEMINISM AND BEAUTY
``The Girls in Their Summer Dresses''
405
6
Jax Pants and the Twist
411
9
Wonderbras and Power Suits
420
4
Thank You, Dr. Guttmacher
424
10
The Looks of Revolution
434
10
The Sexual Revolution Versus The Women's Movement
444
13
Feminism Versus Beauty and Men
457
20
Women's Ink/Women's Blood
477
20
Dressing for Success
497
14
The Denial of Competition
511
21
VII. MEN IN THE MIRROR
My Grandfather's Closet
532
7
The Good Provider
539
12
``What Does She See in Him?''
551
9
Men's Hungry Eyes
560
7
``The Copulatory Gaze''
567
7
The Fantasy Fuck
574
2
Beauty in the Workplace: Courtship or Sexual Harassment?
576
13
``Get Outa My Mirror!''
589
15
The Short, Bald Takeover Tycoons and Their Towering Trophy Wives
604
14
``The Future of Men's Beauty Is Largely in Women's Hands''
618
16
VIII. THE PENIS, THE SHOE, AND THE VAGINA
The Penis: Past, Present, and Future
634
15
Of Feet and Fetishes
649
12
The Codpiece
661
5
IX. CHANGING THE DOUBLE STANDARD OF AGING
Adultery: Scarlet Letter or Red Cross? Becoming the Girl We Left Behind:
666
14
To Hell with the Other Women's Envy!
680
16
Conquering Fear of Sex
696
4
Good Witch/Bad Witch
700
17
What a Difference a Father Would Have Made in This Third Act Had He Been a Lead Character in the First
717
6
Wearing Our Power Beautifully
723
8
What Should the Good Witch Wear?
731
18
Solving the Riddle of Love and Money
749
15
The Prince, the Minstrel, the Tailor, the Wedding: A Musical! Produced by the Girl I Left Behind
764
14
Notes
778
33
Bibliography
811