Product Description: Winner of the National Indie Excellence Book Award for Women’s Issues in 2015, Stop Giving It Away untangles what binds so many women to other people’s needs, wants and expectations. Cherilynn Veland, a social worker, counselor and coach, builds a case for what women can do to make changes that will help them live more fulfilling personal and professional lives...read more

The idea and practice of sacrifice play a profound role in religion, ethics, and politics. In this brief book, philosopher Moshe Halbertal explores the meaning and implications of sacrifice, developing a theory of sacrifice as an offering and examining the relationship between sacrifice, ritual, violence, and love. On Sacrifice also looks at the place of self-sacrifice within ethical life and at the complex role of sacrifice as both a noble and destructive political ideal. In the religious domain, Halbertal argues, sacrifice is an offering, a gift given in the context of a hierarchical relationship. As such it is vulnerable to rejection, a trauma at the root of both ritual and violence. An offering is also an ambiguous gesture torn between a genuine expression of gratitude and love and an instrument of exchange, a tension that haunts the practice of sacrifice. In the moral and political domains, sacrifice is tied to the idea of self-transcendence, in which an individual sacrifices his or her self-interest for the sake of higher values and commitments. While self-sacrifice has great potential moral value, it can also be used to justify the most brutal acts. Halbertal attempts to unravel the relationship between self-sacrifice and violence, arguing that misguided self-sacrifice is far more problematic than exaggerated self-love. In his exploration of the positive and negative dimensions of self-sacrifice, Halbertal also addresses the role of past sacrifice in obligating future generations and in creating a bond for political associations, and considers the function of the modern state as a sacrificial community.

Written for people who seek to make others happy, this unique book exposes the destructive psychology that often drives 'people pleasers' to seek relationships wherein they are harmed.

Examines the historical, social, cultural, and mythic reasons why women subordinate their own needs to the needs of others, explaining how to overcome self-defeating behavior, rediscover the true meaning of sacrifice, and renew energy, identity, and creativity. Reprint. 20,000 first printing. AB.

Based on her exacting research into the experiences of hundreds of mothers, the author reveals the price of their self-denial for themselves and their families and shows them how to cultivate their own lives without feeling guilty.

Defining seven messiah styles--pleaser, protector, giver, rescuer, counselor, teacher, and crusader-- the author shows how taking on such roles as a means of establishing self-worth leads to personal pain and destruction of retionships and self-worth

A workbook, based on material in When Helping You is Hurting Me, suggests activities to help identify one's own needs and desires, and learn to accept love and nurturing from others