INTRODUCTION: How Do We Become Who We Are?

PART I. What Do Children Need?

1. Mother-Love: Worst-Case Scenarios

2. Enter Bowlby: The Search for a Theory of Relatedness

3. Bowlby and Klein: Fantasy vs. Reality

4. Psychopaths in the Making: Forty-four Juvenile Thieves

5. Call to Arms: The World Health Report

6. First Battlefield: "A Two-Year-Old Goes to Hospital"

7. Of Goslings and Babies: The Birth of Attachment Theory

8. "What's the Use to Psychoanalyze a Goose?" Turmoil, Hostility, and Debate

9. Monkey Love: Warm, Secure, Continuous

PART II. Breakthrough: The Assessment of Parenting Style

10. Ainsworth in Uganda

11. The Strange Situation

12. Second Front: Ainsworth's American Revolution

PART III. The Fate of Early Attachments

13. The Minnesota Studies: Parenting Style and Personality Development

14. The Mother, the Father, and the Outside World: Attachment Quality and Childhood Relationships

15. Structures of the Mind: Building a Model of Human Connection

16. The Black Box Reopened: Mary Main's Berkeley Studies

17. They Are Leaning Out for Love: The Strategies and Defenses of Anxiously Attached Children, and the Possibilities for Change

18. Ugly Needs, Ugly Me: Anxious Attachment and Shame

19. A New Generation of Critics: The Findings Contested

PART IV. Give Parents a Break! Nature-Nurture Erupts Anew

20. Born That Way? Stella Chess and the Difficult Child

21. Renaissance of Biological Determinism: The Temperament Debate

22. A Rage in the Nursery: The Infant Day-Care Wars

23. Astonishing Attunements: The Unseen Emotional Life of Babies

PART V. The Legacy of Attachment in Adult Life

24. The Residue of Our Parents: Passing on Insecure Attachment

25. Attachment in Adulthood: The Secure Base vs. The Desperate Child Within

26. Repetition and Change: Working Through Insecure Attachment

PART VI. The Odyssey of an Idea

27. Avoidant Society: Cultural Roots of Anxious Attachment

28. Looking Back: Bowlby and Ainsworth

APPENDIX: Typical Patterns of Secure and Anxious Attachment

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

NOTES

BIBLIOGRAPHY

INDEX