Introduction

Stupid Secrets

Withholding important information for fear of rejection

Stupid Egotism

``My freedom/rights to do what I want are more important than your feelings/needs''---ask not what you can do for this relationship; ask only what this relationship can do for you

Stupid Pettiness

Making a big deal out of the small stuff

Stupid Power

Never lose an argument, or sacrifice anything; always be in control, never let the other forget he or she hurt you or messed up

Stupid Priorities

Consuming all your time and energies with work, hobbies, errands, chores, missions---an unkempt bed has a higher priority than the relationship

Stupid Happiness

Seeking stimulation and assurance from all the wrong places to satisfy the immature need to feel good vs to be good

Stupid Excuses

Instead of acknowledging misdeeds and being accountable and responsible, you fight back with excuses which just cause more damage---learn to apologize!

Stupid Liaisons

Staying attached to relatives and friends who are outright bad influences and destructive to your self or your relationship---allowing these folks to hurt your partner

Stupid Mismatch

Seeing the red flags clearly and yet you stay around trying to put a square peg in a round hole---not knowing when to leave and cut your losses

Stupid Breakups

Disconnecting for all the wrong reasons